We’ve all had talks in which the issue of infidelity is being spoken about and not too long ago I had such a discussion with a neighbor who was in fact indicating to me that her spouse had been utilising her charge card to purchase talks with an adult phone provider and the idea he would use her dollars to pay for intimacy was basically what had actually rattled her “The only silver lining in all of this is that they were inexpensive phone sex conversations” she finally stated about all those phonesex discussions he had been savoring without telling her, as though he needed to be thanked for having had the good sense of locating low priced live phone sex chats as opposed to higher priced adult phone lines! I had to finally ask her if the cost of his “extra marital indiscretions” was the main reason for being annoyed, after all, in the event that my own boyfriend was indeed the one enjoying sexual one-on-one erotic chitchats with other females, I believe I might have gotten raving mad about the whole thing!
“Well” she explained finally… “Possibly not. Perhaps in the early stages I guess I was, I mean he was contacting other girls to fill needs that I was supposed to be filling, nonetheless I came to the conclusion he wasn’t doing anything drastically wrong.
He was calling strangers he’d previously certainly not seen in his life, to act on fantasy desires which i may be uncomfortable with and I suppose I did feel uneasy, but also willing to put in context.
“If I’m completely honest with you, it didn’t bother me that much! The fact that he used my credit card as payment for these phone services was more annoying to me. At the end of the day, I asked myself if his actions constituted some form of cheating on his part, and I have to admit that I didn’t think that it did. Not more than when you, me and the girls go out on our girls’ only night and you know how wild we get sometimes, even if no one has ever done anything more than flirt! So no… I wasn’t angry!”
I was really intrigued by her reaction, or lack thereof. I mean who would have thought that my friend, my dear loyal friend who was always the quietest during those nights out she had just referred to could be so understanding, so broad minded. She actually didn’t see anything wrong. More than that, she saw his “indiscretions” for what they really were. Meaningless simply because of the anonymous nature of the women he had been intimate with. “He is calling fantasy lines” she added and she was right.
“I have seen my very own husband enjoying porn on several occasions” I told her, “thus I can appreciate where you’re coming from! I am not certain I would manage to be so open minded with my man. though..”
And just as I was going to develop my chain of thoughts further, my friend cut me off:
“Here is the thing… After I made him feel guilty for using my credit card without my authorization, I suggested that next time he was going to call one those lines, he should be doing when I was there, listening in… After all, if he was having fun on the side, shouldn’t I be included?”
To say that I was surprised would be the understatement of the year. I was besides myself with incredulity! My oldest and dearest friend had just told me that. My sweet, lovely childhood friend who was always prude and proper. And there she was telling that the idea of having some sort of intimacy, be it by phone or virtual, with her husband and some other virtual person was not only intriguing, but she was looking forward to it!
“Did you? I asked her. Did you do it? Did you and your husband have adult phone with another person? Your own virtual version of a 3-some!
“Yes…” She said. “And before you ask, yes, it was a lot of fun!”